You betta check yo self!

When things in your marriage aren't going well, you often blame your spouse before taking a look in the mirror. Many times we don't want to be the loser of a "heated discussion" (that's what my dad calls arguments). But when you and your spouse are at odds, aren't you both losers?   One of the biggest lessons I learned while being married was to own my stuff. It took me a while to grasp this concept because I only wanted to look at his stuff...his shortcomings...his issues. I'm not saying your spouse is always right, but neither are you. Learn how to fight fair. Using phrases like "you always" or "you never" is not fighting fair. Someone said to me recently that they don't mind arguments with their spouse cause the make up sex is incredible. REALLY??? If you're having make up sex everyday, clearly there is a problem....just saying.

So, I'll end this with todays PSA: For everything that is wrong with your spouse, there is something equally as wrong with you.

#dontplaytheblamegame
#nooneisperfect
#advicefromaformerwife

Livin' Single

Typically, there are two opinions about being single. You either love it or hate it. Being single after 20 years of marriage was extremely difficult in the beginning. I missed having someone to share my day with, eat meals with and that extra set of hands to help me put my Spanx on..lol. I've embraced this time of being solo. I've learned a lot about myself and what I want and need in the future Mr. Walker :)
Which brings me to today's PSA:
Do you know what's worse than being single? Being married to the wrong person.

#imlivingasinglesinglesinglesinglelife
#advicefromaformerwife

PSA for err'body

Start telling yourself the truth and maybe you will stop lying to everyone else.

#berealwityoself
#lieswetell
#advicefromaformerwife

PSA to all the married folks

Knowing your spouse scratches the surface. Learning your spouse digs deeper.

#thelearningneverends
#gobeyondwhatyousee
#advicefromaformerwife

PSA to all the married folks

Don't make your current spouse pay for the mistakes caused by a past fool.

#itsnotfair
#advicefromaformerwife

I'm no expert, just divorced

A few months ago, I started posting weekly PSA's on my FB page to married folks. I was moved to share cause I want people to be successful in marriage. And though I am now divorced, it doesn't mean that I wasn't good at it. My marriage ended, it did not fail. Every week, I will post a little something here specifically for married folks. You can agree, disagree, comment, share, or discuss.


PSA to all the married folks: The easiest way to get it right, is to say I'm wrong. #neverbetostubborntoapologize


All of me,
Char

#advicefromaformerwife

Hey There

I guess I should start off by introducing myself. Hi, my name is Charlotte. I am 42 years old. I love to sing and write. I shop at thrift and consignment stores like it's my job. I'm a mom to 2 incredible sons. The reason why I started this blog is because I am divorced. I know..I know gazillions of people are divorced, so what's the big deal? No big deal at all, just wanna share my experiences on life after marriage. After a 20 year hiatus, I am a single lady...uhh ohh uhh ohhh. He decided to not keep a ring on it. LOL

Join me as I navigate through life to find my new normal. I guarantee that you will find something you can relate to no matter where you are in life.


All of me,
Char


#advicefromaformerwife



P.S. If you are interested in reading my former blog, here's the link: http://myjourney-fromfatto40.blogspot.com/